The night has come to an end, and you both had
an amazing date. The conversation flowed, and
the two of you seem to have a lot in common.
But how do you keep the magic going from this
point on? How do you get her to jump into bed
with you? Read on to learn more.
Get Her Alone
The first step in the art of seduction is to
create an environment where the two of you can
be alone, and it’s easier than you think. While
on your date, keep your ears peeled to what
she’s saying, as she may unknowingly give you
ammunition to invite yourself in for “a few
minutes” later. Topics such as movies she owns
or music she likes can be great for getting
your foot in the door, and much more.
For example, if she tells you she has all four
seasons of a certain television show on DVD,
indicate your interest in the show as well.
When the time comes to drop her off, ask if you
can come inside and take a look at her
collection. To ease any potential fears she may
have, soften your approach by adding that you
have to get up early, so you can’t stay
Keep Her Talking
Now that the two of you are alone, the next
step in seducing her is to keep her talking. If
you give her a chance to focus on something
other than you, she’s more than likely going to
focus on bailing out. Increase her comfort
level by discussing things in your immediate
environment. If you’re at her place, compliment
her sense of style. If she’s at your place,
show her your vintage record collection, or
anything else that you can talk about with
Speaking of your place, do not bring a woman
home to a pigsty. While your place doesn’t have
to be as clean as a museum, the dishes should
be done, the bed should be made, and the
garbage should be where it belongs…in the
garbage can. Besides cleanliness, make sure you
have something interesting to use for
conversation with any woman you bring home.
Coffee-table books, artwork, or interesting
collections are just a few ideas.
Assume the Position
Once you find yourself seated next to her on
the couch, it’s time to assume the traditional
“make out” position. For those less familiar
with this technique, it’s really quite simple.
Turn on the tube, and sit side-by-side with
your arm around her, resting on the couch
pillows. Stay calm, and don’t make any rash or
sudden movements too soon. Always remember that
women take longer to heat up than men do.
After five minutes or so, gently trace your
fingertips along her shoulder, and take them
back. It’s important to not overdo this, as it
will arouse her momentarily, but leave her want
more once your hand is removed. In a few more
minutes, touch her shoulder again, only a bit
firmer. At this point, wait to see how she
responds. You should have no trouble
determining whether or not she’s feeling
If she fails to respond with snuggling or some
other positive indicator, don’t get frustrated.
Just take your arm back, while still keeping it
around her resting on the couch cushions.
Relax, and try again later. When she is on
board, move on to the other erogenous zones of
the body, such as:
1. Her Hair.
2. Her scalp.
3. The inside of her elbows.
4. The skin between her fingers.
5. Her ears.
6. Her shoulders.
7. Her feet.
8. Her toes.
When you feel the time is right, move in for a
kiss, but make sure to let her take the lead.
Refrain from pressing too hard, and do not
stick your tongue in her mouth unless she does
so first. The kiss is the center of good
foreplay, and if you mess it up, you’ve blown
any chance of going to bed with her. Move along
with her lips, not the other way around.
Heat Things Up
You’re in the middle of a good make-out
session, which means you’re halfway to the
bedroom! But the question still remains: how do
you get her to jump into bed with you? At this
point, the concept of patience becomes most
important. The slightest indication of
persistence, and she will bail out on any
possibility of moving things forward with you.
So while you may be extremely excited at your
good fortune, keep your emotions under
Once you feel you’ve gotten her aroused, start
by unbuttoning only some of her top. After no
more than two buttons, stop, and go back to
kissing her. This will keep her wondering
what’s coming next, leaving her wanting more.
After a few more minutes of kissing, undo some
more of her shirt, and gently place your hands
along her shoulders, neckline, and stomach.
Refer to the above list of various erogenous
zones if you need a reminder.
Handle Her Rejection -
At some point in the encounter, you may come
across her initial resistance to go all the
way. Don’t be surprised to hear comments such
as “We’re moving too fast” or “I probably
shouldn’t do this.” If and when she does utter
these phrases, don’t make the mistake so many
guys make by getting upset. Instead, throw her
off guard by agreeing with her. “You’re right;
we are moving too fast” or “We probably
shouldn’t do this” are just a couple of ways to
respond to her fears.
By verbally agreeing with her, you’re actually
disarming her and gradually breaking down her
barriers. Once you’ve done so, go back to
kissing and stroking her, and taking things
slower in general. Resort back to your original
methods of seduction with the full intention of
escalating the interaction all over again.
However, be aware that there’s a big difference
between token resistance and real resistance.
If she’s literally fighting off your advances,
stop. Forcing a woman to have sex with you is a
felony, also known as rape.
But if do make it to the bedroom, be sure to
wear a condom. Pregnancy is not the only
concern of today’s healthy, sexual male. There
are a variety of Sexually Transmitted Diseases
to be concerned about as well, so you can never
be too careful. And whatever you do, just
remember to stay relaxed and patient. Give her
the lead in foreplay, and the rest will take
care of itself.