How Do You Know If They Sincerely Like You
If you want to know if someone really likes you, here is how you would find out...


By Rick Freedom

So you’ve gone on a couple of dates, and you really like the other person. The chemistry was there, and they even went in for that end-of-the-date kiss. That’s great! But now what do you do? How do you know if they sincerely like you, or are just playing around?

In all honesty, there’s no method of completely determining how genuine another person is; you simply have to play the waiting game. Continue the getting-to-know-you process, and soon enough, you’ll be able to tell what his or her intentions really are. It’s called the “game of love,” and you’re only in the first quarter.

The Difference between Actions and Words

While it’s generally difficult to gauge the intensity of someone’s feelings so early on, it is possible to determine whether or not you’re wasting your time with them. There’s an old saying that “actions speak louder than words,” and it couldn’t be truer. Words are free; they literally cost nothing to say. It’s the actions behind those words that require genuine, heartfelt effort.

For example, if you’re deeply attracted to someone (physically and emotionally), chances are you take the time to call them, and when you two are together, they have your full attention. You may tell them how much you like them, but even better, your actions prove that you do. You want to speak to them and be with them, and you go after what you want. In short, you sincerely like them.

However, if you find that you’re constantly giving as the other person takes (for example, it’s always you who has to pick up the phone and call), you should probably reevaluate your relationship. Genuine attraction and appreciation for another person is give and take. If they don’t ever seek your company, or if you still haven’t met their friends, something is terribly wrong.

Don’t find yourself in a position where your heart and mind can’t compromise. While the heart usually wants to believe the other person is sincere, the mind always knows otherwise. Listen to your gut, and follow these steps to help you move on to bigger and better things:

1. Respect Yourself: Ever notice how it’s the weak-minded kids who are always getting picked on? That’s because they have no self respect. They allow themselves to be treated in certain ways, and as a result, they are the targets of your typical bully. Recognize what treatments you will and will not stand for, and draw the line between them. When you do so, other people will automatically respect you more.

2. Think Independently: Don’t consider yourself worthless because you’re not seeing anybody. So many people consider themselves “lucky” to have their mate, or even worse, they can’t believe their mate even wants to be with them! This train of thought is destructive, and it must not be allowed to progress. If you want other people to sincerely like you, you must first like yourself.

3. Have Standards: Don’t just go out with someone because they asked you; go out with them because they appeal to you. No one has ever died from spending a Friday night home alone, so if you’d rather be doing that than going on a date with a certain someone, do it! By having enough standards to only date people you sincerely like, you’re already starting off on a positive note.

The point is this: don’t place too much emphasis on whether or not someone sincerely likes you. You must first have the confidence to like yourself, and everything else will fall into place from that point on. If you emit the signals that you’re a great catch, or that you’re perfectly confident as a single person, you’d be amazed at how people will become drawn to you! Abandon the mindset that you must have a mate in order to be a complete person. Our partners are supposed to enhance who we already are, not define us.


Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com

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