How Soon Should I Start Having Sex With Her?
To do it or not to do it, that is the question


By Rick Freedom

So you’ve met the girl of your dreams. She’s pretty, intelligent, and has a great sense of humor. What’s even better is that she’s really into you! Now only one question remains: how soon to start having sex?

There’s really no definitive answer for this question. Sex can make or break a relationship, so it all depends on what you want out of it. If you see a long-term potential with someone, the odds of waiting to go to bed are in your favor. If, on the other hand, you’re only in it for a good time, then why does it matter how long you wait?

It’s safe to say that most men are the more promiscuous of the two sexes, so you can tell a lot about a girl from how long she makes you wait for sex. Depending on what you want out of the relationship, this information can prove to be extremely valuable. Read on to learn more about the different sexual styles of women and what they mean for your relationship.

Woman #1: Wedding-Night Waiters

Granted there aren’t many of these gems out there nowadays, but you can still run into them on occasion. These types of women have sworn (out loud, at least) to remain chaste until their wedding nights, which is nothing short of admirable. Still, such a vow does have its downsides.

You wouldn’t buy a car without test driving it first, and the same holds true for sex. If you do end up holding out for this type of woman until the honeymoon, you might be in for a big disappointment. As much as a healthy relationship relies on trust and compatibility, it also needs a nice dose of sexual energy to stay alive. That said, if you purchase the goods before testing them out, you might end up with a serious case of buyer’s remorse.

Woman #2: Slow Movers

This type of woman is not as bad as the first mentioned, as she does have sex on her mind. However, she’s going to make you work for it.

Slow movers were taught by their foremothers to take caution when engaging a man she’s interested in. She wants to know every aspect of you in order to confirm her hunch that you are worth it. In addition, she wants to see if you care enough about her to play the waiting game. While you may get the occasional bone of wet kisses and steamy make-out sessions thrown at you, you’re going to have to fit the bill to get what you really want.

When the day finally comes that you two have sex, it seems incredible. Just be careful to not fall under false pretenses. If you feed muck to a starving Ethiopian child, it’s going to be the best-tasting muck out there. After a while, however, it may lose its novelty, so it’s up to the both of you to create new and inventive ways of spicing things up. Either way, you know you’ve got a keeper with this girl, as she obviously has standards and knows what she wants.

Woman #3: Three Strikers

You’ve counted one, two, and three dates with a girl. Much to your surprise (and delight), she’s decided to invite you inside at the end of this third outing. Before you know it, the two of you are hitting the sheets.

In all honesty, you have to make up your own mind about this kind of gal. She’s obviously got some standards, as she didn’t give it up right away. But at the same time, how does one really know another person well enough after three dates? For this reason, you have to judge for yourself whether or not this is relationship either one of you seeks to pursue. If so, you have to ask yourself what having sex so early on can mean for its success.

Woman #4: First Nighters

It’s rare that anything long-term evolves out of a one-night stand, but of course, there are exceptions to everything. It’s safe to say, however, that anything launched physically without an emotional foundation to stand on will crumble quickly. And don’t forget the obvious concerns about STD’s and other issues that come along with someone so promiscuous. Generally speaking, this type of woman is only after one thing, and it’s best to stay away from her.

Turn the Tables on Her

If you want to really stand out in today’s dating arena, why not try holding out for sex yourself? Women are so used to being pursued sexually anyways, that it would be nothing short of enticing for you to be the one waiting instead of her. After all, it’s no secret that people always want what they can’t have, and this especially holds true for women.

Take your time by giving some of the best foreplay she’s ever received, and make it lead to nowhere. The anticipation of wanting more from you will quickly consume her, and it will make for some great sex as well! But to sum things up, there’s no correct time to have sex with someone, as it is such an intimate act that requires intimate care and attention. Every person is different, and as such, so is every couple. Just follow your instincts, and you can’t go wrong.


Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com

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