It takes more than a witty pick-up line and a
brilliant smile to seduce a woman. If you want
to get lucky with a girl you have to know how
to play the game.
A successful seduction is surprisingly easy to
achieve and the techniques are not difficult to
master. If you have always been the sort of guy
who ends up going home alone, read on because
I'm about to share the secrets that you really
need to know.
A romantic restaurant or a quiet wine bar makes
an excellent seduction spot. Here you can lean
in, lower your voice and really get to know a
girl. The touch of luxury will put her in the
sort of frivolous mood which leads to
If you are not on a date, do not worry. Meeting
a girl in a nightclub or at a party can lead to
saucy slow dancing. Even pool halls have
potential - what better excuse to put your arms
around her than showing her how to hold the
Nice and Slow
Seduction takes time. Settle in for a leisurely
conversation and show a real interest in what
the woman is saying. Ask open ended questions
and appreciate her jokes. Offer occasional
compliments about her jewelry, her laugh or her
choice of wine and keep any complaints or
criticisms to yourself.
Sleazy men do not stand a chance so avoid
leering at her or asking about her sex life.
Flirt with a raised eyebrow and a naughty
smile, but make sure that any saucy stories you
tell are about your friends' antics, not your
Say it with a Smile
If you want to seduce a woman you have to get
the body language right. Turn your knees and
shoulders towards her. If you're sitting across
the table from her, lean forward and lower your
voice so only she can hear you. Otherwise,
consciously relax your muscles and lean back,
encouraging her to move in closer.
Don't let her catch your eyes wandering.
Instead, flick your gaze from eye to eye and
momentarily down to her lips. She will notice
the quick glance at her mouth and instantly
think about kissing you.
Don't fidget, but do use your hands to their
full effect. Emphasize points by squeezing her
hand. Sympathize with her by gently stroking
her arm. As the night wears on, move on to
touching her knee or brushing stray hairs from
Hold off kissing her for as long as you can.
Tease her by leaning ever closer to her and
finding excuses to stroke her arm. Hold her
gaze and smile ever so slightly. By now, she
will be desperate for you to put your lips to
When you kiss, make it firm but gentle. Put one
hand on the small of her back and the other in
her hair or on her arm. Go easy on the tongue;
girls prefer lots of short, sweet kisses to one
long, deep one.
Tell her that you're not ready for tonight to
end, then wait for her to invite you home.
Remember that the art of seduction is sensual
and slow. Dragging her straight to the bedroom
will spoil her mood, so keep up the kissing and
the gentle stroking of her until she leads you
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