Liking someone can be one of the most
nerve-racking experiences, especially if you’re
shy or lacking self esteem. You want nothing
more than to communicate your interest to the
other person, but have absolutely no idea how
to get the ball rolling. If you think you’re
alone with this problem, think again.
In this article, you’ll learn effective ways to
start a conversation with that special someone.
These techniques don’t require you to lay on
the flattery too thickly, and best of all, they
allow you to simply be yourself. By the time
you finish reading this, you’ll have the
confidence and assuredness to take that
much-needed step towards communication, and
hopefully, snag a phone number!
Feel Good About
No communication (romantic or otherwise) can be
effective if you’re not completely sure of
yourself. How we look directly affects how we
feel inside. Take the time to look your best.
Put on your snazziest suit, style your hair,
and splash on a little fragrance.
Feeling good about yourself goes beyond outside
appearances, however. What you think about your
life, talents, goals, and personality can be
very powerful! Take a deep look inside, and
determine what accomplishments you’re proud of.
What do your friends say they like about you?
Identifying your strong points before talking
to that special someone can make for a more
Never approach someone new with a somber look
on your face. Why would they be welcoming to a
sourpuss anyways? Before you even open your
mouth, look them directly in the eye, and flash
you pearly whites. People respond directly to
whatever energy you emit, so make sure it’s a
Now that you’ve got that smile down, tag on a
greeting to go with it. After all, what
conversation is ever started without one?
You’ll most likely get a kind response in
return, and if not, then move on to someone
Ask For an Opinion
One of the most effective means of conversing
with a complete stranger is to ask for an
opinion, especially if you’re a man approaching
a woman. Females constantly have their guard up
in social situations, and by getting her
thoughts on a random topic, you’re showing her
that you have intentions other than hooking up.
Find out of they know of a good restaurant in
town, or be silly, and ask what they think of
your friend’s ugly shirt. From there, the
dialogue should flow naturally.
Use Your Surroundings
Once you two begin talking, use the environment
around you to create conversation. Comment on
the crowd, or notice the song playing, and tell
an elaborate story about the time you met the
artist. By keeping an open eye and ear, you’ll
find you have plenty of topics to discuss.
Don’t Forget to Listen
So many people place too much emphasis on
talking, and they forget to listen. By not
being receptive to what the other person is
saying, you’re actually killing your chances
for success. The other person wants to be
heard, and by showing that you’re not receiving
their end of the conversation, you stand a good
chance of ruining an attraction. Effective
communication works both ways.
No one likes negativity, so keep your tone and
topics upbeat. It’s upsetting to have had a bad
day at work, but to be honest, no one wants to
hear about it. On that same note, don’t fill
your conversation with cheap shots at other
people. As you just learned, people respond
directly to the energy that you emit, and if
you’re energy is dark, you’re only repelling
those around you.
Watch What You Say
Don’t talk solely about how attractive the
other person is, and under no circumstances
discuss sex. This rule is especially true when
it comes to a man talking to a woman. If you’re
meeting the person for the first time, you
don’t know anything about them or their
preferences. Several subjects (from religion to
politics, and then some) are considered taboo
by many people, so stick to what’s safe for the
Final Words of Advice
Now that you know how to start a conversation,
you’ve got a solid foundation to express your
interest in the other person. Casually suggest
a good restaurant or local hang out, and ask if
he or she would like to join you sometime. Get
those digits, and continue where you left