Maximize Your Chances with the Opposite Sex
If you want to increase your success rate with the opposite sex, then this is what you need to know...


By Rick Freedom

Anyone who’s gone on a date knows how nerve-wracking it can be. Concerns over how you look or what you’re going to say often consume your mind before, during, and after the night is over. And even if you’ve managed to end the night on an apparently high note, there’s no guarantee of a second date.

If you’ve found yourself falling short on dating success, don’t feel bad, because in this article, you’re going to learn how to maximize your chances with the opposite sex. The technique you’re going to learn about is easier than you’ve ever imagined, and the best part is that it involves practically no practice whatsoever! Anyone can do this, and those who have already discovered the technique’s benefits are reaping in them.

The Secret to Attraction

What is this secret approach to attracting the opposite sex? Confidence! At this point, you’re probably thinking it would be a waste of your time to continue reading, and if so, you couldn’t be more mistaken. The fact of the matter is this - confidence is sexy. Have you ever seen an older, bald, and slightly-pudgy man walking around with a gorgeous woman by his side? Certainly, she didn’t go after him for his looks, but he must have appealed to her in some way. Odds are that he conveyed a very high and confident status.

So how does one effectively behave confidently? First, you have to stop preplanning what you’re going to say or how you’re going to act. If (before a date) you refresh your mental inventory of stories to tell in order to gain her approval, it’s going to show. You’ll appear desperate, not confident, and one surefire way to turnoff a woman is to act like you need her approval.

What is True Confidence?

Confidence is an attitude, not an act. It’s a positive state-of-mind that is revealed not through funny stories or jokes, but through body language. Know that you’re a good catch, and relax in the realization of that. This type of confidence will set you apart from the vast majority of men on the market, because it enables builds confidence from within. Most men practice superficial confidence that needs to be forced when interacting with a woman.

While you should portray confidence, don’t be so relaxed that you neglect conversation with your date. If you think of something funny to say, say it. Do what comes naturally to you, as opposed to the lines that you rehearsed on the drive over. Maintain control of your interactions with the opposite sex through your conversation. For example, if you compliment her only to get, “I bet you say that to all the girls” in response, don’t feed into it. Someone seeking approval would quickly deny her accusation with a “No I don’t!” Refrain from doing the same.

If you’re truly confident, then you will be indifferent to her statement. There will be no “correct” response. Any time you search for the exact words to say, you’re giving her control of the situation, because you’re indicating that you care about her opinion. Instead, casually smile in reference to her claim, and move on from the topic. Not only does this put you in control, but it creates a sense of mystery surrounding you. You’ve become a challenge to her, and women love challenges.

Play Hard-to-Get

Another aspect to confidence is to know when to walk away. You may have heard it said that “you always want what you can’t have,” and this certainly holds true for women. Be willing to leave the interaction if you’re just not feeling it. After all, you’re a strong and confident man; you know what you want, and you’re not going to waste your time on anything less.

Walking away also makes you appear as a challenge, which only keeps the woman even more interested. If it’s you that’s unreachable to her, that will make you appear more interesting. Make her work to gain your attraction. Don’t pick up the phone every time she calls, and take your time getting back to her. If she wants to go out, but you have other plans, don’t break them to be with her. Have other things in your life that are important to you, and she’ll try even harder to be at the top of that list.

So be confident, and don’t be too eager to please. Always remember that you’re a catch, and there’s a whole world of women out there for you to choose from. You only deserve the best.

Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com

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