The Way to a Man’s Heart
Contrary to popular belief, it takes more than a meal to a man's heart.


By Rick Freedom

While most men appreciate a great meal, the fact is that the way to a man’s heart is much more involved.

Remember the first time you and your man went out? The chemistry was certainly there, and you didn’t even have to wait long for him to call and ask for a second date. You were on top of the world, convinced you had found Mr. Right. After all, what wasn’t there to like about him? He was attentive, passionate, and he couldn’t wait to be with you!

But if you’re like most women, you’ve probably noticed a strong decrease in your man’s attention recently. It seems the more mature your relationship gets, the weaker it feels. To remedy this, you (like every other woman on the planet) put great care into your physical appearance. You’ve worked extra hard at pleasing him, whether it be emotionally or via the tried-and-true method…through his stomach. Still, nothing seems to work, and you’re at a loss.

If this sounds familiar, don’t fret, because you’re not alone. For members of the same species, men and women couldn’t be more different. Read on to learn the secret to securing a man’s heart, and saving your relationship.

Send Him Hunting

Think back to the very start of your relationship. Remember how attentive he was? He wasted no time asking you out, and he didn’t even bother to abide by the two-day rule when calling for a second date. All of that attention was so wonderful!

So what happened? The truth of the matter is that while society has evolved greatly since prehistoric times, men haven’t. They’re still tuned into their natural caveman instincts to hunt, also know as the thrill of the chase. Once they’ve made their capture, the novelty is gone, and it’s time to hunt something else.

Women, in contrast, are the more emotional of the two sexes. We know the importance of feeling needed and loved, and as such, we don’t think twice about showering our men with such affections. Perhaps you’ve done so under the impression that this would make him realize how lucky he is to have you in his life. In contrast, you’ve probably done the exact opposite.

Right now, your man is certain that he has you, and you will not stray. Because of your utter devotion to him, he knows he has caught you, and you are going nowhere. And while this may be true, there’s no harm in making him wonder otherwise. Little things like not picking up the phone when he calls, or waiting a few hours to return his message, will catch his attention. And if you really want to trigger his inner caveman, make other plans with your girlfriends. You should never put your friends on the back burner anyways.

Get a Life

Sit down and think about all the passions you had before meeting him. Now think about how many of those passions you still pursue while in your relationship. If the answer is none or very few, you may want to consider revamping your life a tad.

Take up that pottery class you’ve been thinking of; write that book that’s been gathering dust in your mind the past couple of years; or sign up for that running group you’ve been meaning to join. Just because you’re in a relationship does not mean your life has to come to a halt, and if you really think about it, your man probably tends to his hobbies. Why don’t you? Make him view you as a busy girl whom he has to work hard to spend time with. Having other passions will not only make you appear more desirable in his eyes, but it will work wonders for your self-esteem as well.

Remain a Mystery

If you’re like most women, you make it a habit of letting your man in on every emotion running inside you. And if he’s got half a brain, he’s well aware that he’s the only man for you, you will never leave him, and the first thought you have upon waking is him. If this sounds like you, then you need to stop it…now.

The way to a man’s heart requires becoming a mystery to him. You have to go against the very inclinations you’re feeling to obtain your desired results. For example, if you’re seeking assurance of his commitment to you, the last thing you want to do is ask him. Doing so will only drive him further away. Instead, you have to tap into his hunting instincts (as mentioned above) by playing it totally cool. Make him wonder where you stand in regards to the relationship, and he will work even harder at insuring you are his and his alone.

If you think about it, men and women are both attracted to people who are confident and independent. Who wants someone whose entire life rotates upon someone else? Men want women who have other reasons to live besides them, and if you fill your life with additional passions (while still remaining a worthwhile girlfriend), you’ll be sure to steal his heart for good.


Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com

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