What do Men Really Want from Women?
Unravel this age old mystery & enjoy greater success with men


By Rick Freedom

“The key to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”

You’ve probably heard this statement uttered before, and while it may be true, there’s so much more that men seek from the women in their lives. So many women place great emphasis on appearances or sex when trying to keep their mates interested. And while it stands to reason that most men would prefer a woman who takes care of herself and is sexually adventurous, catching and keeping their attention is really quite simple.

Do you ever wonder why men are so uncomfortable watching women cry? In their eyes, they are responsible for offering up a solution to her problem, and because they can’t, this puts them in a very uncomfortable position. Men are problem solvers. They want to be seen as a hero and protector by the females in their lives. In return, all they ask for is a little appreciation of this role.

Most women don’t realize how important it is for their mates to receive compliments. They see their husbands or boyfriends as being strong in both body and mind, and therefore, they fail to nurture that human need to feel appreciated. Think about an average day in your household. Does nagging and criticism reign over praise and support?

In this article, we’re going to cover three things that men really want from women. You can begin incorporating these practices into your everyday life, and enjoy the changes that take place as a result. There is nothing fancy to the following techniques, and the good news is that most of us already perform them on a daily basis! Included in each section is a ‘do’ and ‘do not’ to help you better utilize the steps.

Do Love Him

Even if he doesn’t admit it, chances are your man enjoys hearing that you love him. It’s important to say this word to your mate, and do so because you really mean it, not because you’ve been prompted to say it. Even more important is taking the time to illustrate love through your actions. Women tend to place so much emphasis on being shown appreciation, but they often fail to hold up their end of the deal in return. Everyone needs to feel loved.
To love is a choice, and to behave in a loving manner requires thought and effort. Nagging and criticizing one’s mate is an act of impulse; it’s a default emotion that lacks any behavioral discipline. As a married or committed couple, it is the responsibility of both parties to put in equal work in order to make it successful. And without love, the possibility of success is minimal.

Do Not Love Him Unconditionally

You may be thinking that true love is unconditional, and it is. Supporting one’s mate and forgiving certain offenses is par for the course of unconditional love. But there are certain situations where it would be best to retreat from the relationship. Any instance where one party is verbally or physically abusive to the other would be one example. There’s a difference between supporting and being demeaned, and you have to love yourself enough to not allow any harm to come your way.

Do Appreciate Him

What typically comes out of your mouth the second your husband comes home? Be honest. If you’re like most women, any possibility of a warm greeting is quickly replaced by complaints. “You forgot to take out the garbage,” or “You’re late again” might be some of the things you say to the man you supposedly love, and you need to stop…now.

Think carefully about his response to such treatment. Does he ignore you? If not, then he probably voices his own frustrations in response to yours, creating a vicious cycle of negativity in your relationship. As humans, it’s so easy to pick up on what’s going wrong in our lives, while easily ignoring what’s going right, and this is a habit you need to break. Instead of nagging, try praising. Consider the tiniest details of your life (such as how he picks the kids up after work), and thank him for them.

Do Not Be a Doormat

There’s a big difference between forgetting to take out the trash and never pulling your weight around the house. If your man places all domestic responsibilities on you, then you’re the one being unappreciated, and it has to stop. Not only is it unfair, but it sets a foundation for your relationship of zero respect, and it’s impossible to be happy for the long haul under such conditions. As important as it is to recognize effort by your mate, it’s just as important to recognize when he has zero motivation.

Do Respect Him

For men, the ego is very important. So many males work their fingers to the bone at their jobs, and in the eyes of their bosses, it’s never good enough. To add insult to injury, many men come home at the end of the day to even less respect, and still, they continue striving for that well-deserved recognition.

As the wife or partner of a hard-working and good man, you should consider it your pleasure and duty to support him in all things. Tell him how handsome he looks, or remind him of how capable he is. “Sounds like you handled that client really well dear!” Never let an opportunity pass when you could praise him, and he will do the same for you.

Do Not Overdo It

While it’s important to recognize his successes and sympathize with his failures, be careful not to lay it on too thick. If you do, then you risk sincerity and credibility. Take care to acknowledge genuine accomplishments versus everyday behaviors, and draw the line between them. As with anything, moderation is the key, and laying on the flattery too thickly can be just as bad as not laying it on at all.

You’ve just learned the secret to what men really want from women. Sounds simple enough, right? Well, it really is; all it takes is some minor personality tweaks and discipline. Incorporate these practices into your everyday life, and watch your relationship thrive and grow.

Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com

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